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Á Nationally recognized communication expert Debra Fine reveals the techniques and strategies anyone can use to make small talk in any situation Do you spend an abnormal amount of time hiding out in the bathroom or hanging out at the buffet table at social gatherings Does the thought of striking up a conversation with a stranger make your stomach do flip flops Do you sit nervously through job interviews waiting for the other person to speak Are you a Nervous Ned or Nellie when it comes to networking Then it s time you mastered The Fine Art of Small Talk With practical advice and conversation cheat sheets, The Fine Art of Small Talk will help you learn to feel comfortable in any type of social situation, from lunch with the boss to an association event to a cocktail party where you don t know a soul La source blanche : L'étonnante histoire des dialogues avec l'Ange Keep It Going Le sourire à visage humain : Suivi de Citoyen, citoyenneté et Encore plus de plus Build Networking Skills and Leave a Positive Impression! Á Nationally recognized communication expert Debra Fine reveals the techniques and strategies anyone can use to make small talk in any situation Do you spend an abnormal amount of time hiding out in the bathroom or hanging out at the buffet table at social gatherings Does the thought of striking up a conversation with a stranger make your stomach do flip flops Do you sit nervously through job interviews waiting for the other person to speak Are you a Nervous Ned or Nellie when it comes to networking Then it s time you mastered The Fine Art of Small Talk With practical advice and conversation cheat sheets Soigner les plantes par les huiles essentielles et les huiles végétales The Fine Art of Small Talk will help you learn to feel comfortable in any type of social situation Préparation aux examens de coiffure CAP : Sciences et technologie from lunch with the boss to an association event to a cocktail party where you don t know a soul Learning how to small talk is probably one of the most important skills that everyone overlooks This is something that should be taught in schools but won t because their too worried about standardized testing all the time If you were to recount the number of times you ve been to a social event and found the other person to be quite rude in their social and conversation skills then you are not alone.Debra Fine explains in this little book of hers that learning how to small talk with others can Learning how to small talk is probably one of the most important skills that everyone overlooks This is something that should be taught in schools but won t because their too worried about standardized testing all the time If you were to recount the number of times you ve been to a social event and found the other person to be quite rude in their social and conversation skills then you are not alone.Debra Fine explains in this little book of hers that learning how to small talk with others can open doors into other worlds that might never have been possible before because you took the time to listen and relate to what the other person was saying These are not simple or easy skills to learn because if they were, everyone would be jumping at attending social functions every night But how often do you find your nights filled with nothing to do at home People who learn the skills in this book and take it to the next level realize the world of opportunities that are out there every night Their nights become filled with event functions and networking groups that expand their inner social circle.There is something else that changes when you learn the fine art of small talk and that is, you bring injob prospects into your life If you look at the number of people who have mastered the skills taught in this book, they are the ones you meet at these social functions who show a genuine interest in what you have to say but not only that they make your stories and experiences something they can relate to that makes you want to talk with that personThere is no secret in what they are doing to you, they have simply learned the art of active listening and relating.Small talk starts off with all the things your parents taught you as a kid that has done damage to your understanding of what it means to become a social person Parents need to stop telling their kids to not talk to strangers because that is the first bad habit that kids pick up and take with them into adulthood If you have been told not to talk to strangers and then one day you graduate from high school and then told to go talk to strangers, what happens Confusion happens You were never taught the skills of how to do that and now you are told you have to be amazing in interviews and social events Kids naturally want to talk with anyone who will listen to them and if you learn to cultivate those skills instead of killing them, then your kid will grow up to be quite the people person that everyone wants to be connected to.The remaining part of the book goes into different ways of starting a simple conversation with various questions and comments you can memorize to help you get started The book also covers different situations you will be required to talk in, weddings, company events, parties, singles events, and so on Learning to speak with others shouldn t be hard, especially if you just take the time to listen to what other people have to say instead of worrying about what you plan to say next.If you want to get better at talking with people, you have to get over your fear of talking to strangers, so the next time you are on the bus, in an elevator, or at a public event, smile and say hi to anyone that looks at you You will be surprised at how just acknowledging another person can transform that individual into someone that is just looking to be validated and wanting someone else to talk with But always keep in mind that you want to meet new people as well and not take up others time, so mingle, talk, mingle and talk someYou might be surprised at the new opportunities that open up in your life from just that simple act of acknowledging someone else s existence Hello, my name is Heidi and I am bad at small talk It s not that I don t have things to say I can think of plenty of things to say The things just don t make it out of my mouth.Enter Debra Fine, self help author and speaking coach She believes small talk is a skill that can be taught and mastered by even the most hopeless conversationalist Fine begins by detailing her own life experience as a poor conversationalist and how she remade herself into a conversational dynamo.And she hopes to do Hello, my name is Heidi and I am bad at small talk It s not that I don t have things to say I can think of plenty of things to say The things just don t make it out of my mouth.Enter Debra Fine, self help author and speaking coach She believes small talk is a skill that can be taught and mastered by even the most hopeless conversationalist Fine begins by detailing her own life experience as a poor conversationalist and how she remade herself into a conversational dynamo.And she hopes to do the same for her readers.Most of the advice in The Fine Art of Small Talk is common sense stuff, but I can still see it being useful to me in the future.For example, she encourages readers to be brave and initiate conversations in public situations Look for the people sitting by themselves They might appreciate your attempts to chat Also, if you don t start a conversation, he or she may believe you re being stand offish That s not a belief you d want to encourage.Actually, I have a very shy friend, one of the librarians I worked with, who swore by this technique of finding a person sitting by themselves She did extremely well at parties by finding the quietest person in the room and starting a conversation with them.Next, once you re talking to someone, learn his or her name and how to appropriately pronounce it Ask open ended questions to foster the conversations and reduce any potentially awkward pauses Fine recommends using the acronym FORM to help you create these questions FORM stands for family, occupation, recreation and miscellaneous.Don t be rude and press into topics that people seem reluctant to talk about Just gently steer the conversation around the recommended general topics and let the person you re conversing with lead Make sure to pay attention to any verbal cues or body language the other person gives you Obviously, this can bedifficult over the phone, so just actively listen.And finally, exit the conversation gracefully by going back to the topic you started talking about in the first place or offering to follow up with the person by giving a phone number or email.Now that you have all the tools of small talk, your assignment is to practice it Yikes.As I said, nothing earth shattering in here, but in an age of increasing social disconnection because of technology, perhaps these tips could be useful to anyone who is seeking to improve their relationships through small talk.Recommended for all the tongue tied bibliophiles out there, like me I figured out awhile back that even the very best self help books contain about a pamphlet s worth of good ideas padded out to book length with anecdotes, redundant bullet points, and the occasional not very funny cartoon With the lowered expectations of that definition, this is a pretty good book since it contains about a pamphlet s worth of good ideas The actual suggested talking points arestilted and awkward than anything you could think up yourself and if you didn t already know whic I figured out awhile back that even the very best self help books contain about a pamphlet s worth of good ideas padded out to book length with anecdotes, redundant bullet points, and the occasional not very funny cartoon With the lowered expectations of that definition, this is a pretty good book since it contains about a pamphlet s worth of good ideas The actual suggested talking points arestilted and awkward than anything you could think up yourself and if you didn t already know which subjects to avoid politics, religion you ve got bigger social problems than this book can fix However, the author manages to make a few good points and reminded me of a few things I hadn t perhaps taken seriously enough Such as pointing out that shyness can be misconstrued as rudeness if you seem to be avoiding conversation and that sometimes taking the aggressive position of initiating the conversation and asking the questions can be a shy person s best defense against being cornered The general focus of the book is on business networking and the section on dating consists mainly of anecdoteslikely to scare you off dating than increase your confidence in social small talk Hence, I think I d belikely to recommend this to business people than to someone just interested in making friends, but even there it has some helpful points for the socially inept Like many people, I can t stand small talk or icebreakers and I generally avoid social situations in which these skills are necessary I recently returned from a vacation on which I had pledged that I d try to be better at talking to random people, and I entirely failed on that goal I never seem to sit next to a chatty Kathy on an airplane I don t strike up conversations with locals at bars or restaurants If I am approached by someone in these situations, my default reaction is usually to Like many people, I can t stand small talk or icebreakers and I generally avoid social situations in which these skills are necessary I recently returned from a vacation on which I had pledged that I d try to be better at talking to random people, and I entirely failed on that goal I never seem to sit next to a chatty Kathy on an airplane I don t strike up conversations with locals at bars or restaurants If I am approached by someone in these situations, my default reaction is usually to be defensive instead of open I shoot back one word responses and don t ask open ended questions, because I usually don t want to speak with the person beyond that A man that works in my building told me I needed to smile the other day, and I m still harboring resentment toward him days later for that comment I know he s from an older generation and probably means well, but it s 2018 Don t say that.A lot of the conversation topics and ideas in this book seem incredibly robotic and unnatural to even say I was surprised to see the book was written in 2005 It reads as very dated Many of the suggestions seemed geared toward business interactions as well, which isn t my area I took a few pointers away from this book but they were mostly seeing aspects of myself in the bad conversation skills section I accept this and can maybe sort of try to do better.After reading this book, I ve come to the realization that I don t really think I m meant to talk to random people I m guilty of instantly judging people from the second I see them or am introduced I make a snap decision if the person is worthy of my time or not, and I m usually right A key component to this book s suggestions is to express genuine interest in what other people are talking about and I m genuinely not interested most of the time Life is too short to suffer through conversations I don t care about If this dooms me to solitude and spinsterhood then I guess that s fine