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While I appreciated Melissa s candor and vulnerability, I didn t like her perspective on abusive relationships I think there s value in reading memoirs, being able to empathize with the authors, and witnessing how they handle similar life obstacles But given to the wrong audience at the wrong time, this book can carry a negative multiplier effect As I was reading this, I was caught up in the heated energy of her relationship I ll admit that I forgot how abusive relationships are ugly and pai While I appreciated Melissa s candor and vulnerability, I didn t like her perspective on abusive relationships I think there s value in reading memoirs, being able to empathize with the authors, and witnessing how they handle similar life obstacles But given to the wrong audience at the wrong time, this book can carry a negative multiplier effect As I was reading this, I was caught up in the heated energy of her relationship I ll admit that I forgot how abusive relationships are ugly and painful How they cause tremendous suffering and create destructive tendencies for both parties That they are similar to drugs and addiction, except to people.The problem is that prose has a way of twisting itself It is multi faceted and has a different interpretation amongst different readers It can shroud reality within beautiful and majestic writing And that is what happened here While I don t deny Melissa s talent for story telling and vulnerability, I can t say I ll ever be okay with the messages this book may convey Something about this book I just found incredible I found myself rearranging my entire life just to find the time to devote to reading it.I don t think it s for everyone I don t expect everyone to read this and like it, but I really really enjoyed it. #Read Book ⚣ Abandon Me: Memoirs ⚞ For readers of Maggie Nelson and Leslie Jamison, a fierce and dazzling personal narrative that explores the many ways identity and art are shaped by love and lossIn her critically acclaimed memoir, Whip Smart, Melissa Febos laid bare the intimate world of the professional dominatrix, turning an honest examination of her life into a lyrical study of power, desire, and fulfillmentIn her dazzling Abandon Me, Febos captures the intense bonds of love and the need for connection with family, lovers, and oneself First, her birth father, who left her with only an inheritance of addiction and Native American blood, its meaning a mystery As Febos tentatively reconnects, she sees how both these lineages manifest in her own life, marked by compulsion and an instinct for self erasure Meanwhile, she remains closely tied to the sea captain who raised her, his parenting ardent but intermittent as his work took him away for months at a time Woven throughout is the hypnotic story of an all consuming, long distance love affair with a woman, marked equally by worship and withdrawal In visceral, erotic prose, Febos captures their mutual abandonment to passion and obsession and the terror and exhilaration of losing herself in anotherAt once a fearlessly vulnerable memoir and an incisive investigation of art, love, and identity, Abandon Me draws on childhood stories, religion, psychology, mythology, popular culture, and the intimacies of one writer s life to reveal intellectual and emotional truths that feel startlingly universal Paul Graham a fierce and dazzling personal narrative that explores the many ways identity and art are shaped by love and lossIn her critically acclaimed memoir de Interrogationibus Obliquis Apud Ciceronem Observationes Selectae Whip Smart A Trip to the Zoo Melissa Febos laid bare the intimate world of the professional dominatrix Las mejores anécdotas del Barça (Deportes) turning an honest examination of her life into a lyrical study of power To Love Again (Bound Hearts desire All He Needed and fulfillmentIn her dazzling Abandon Me A Christmas to Remember Febos captures the intense bonds of love and the need for connection with family Step In lovers 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and obsession and the terror and exhilaration of losing herself in anotherAt once a fearlessly vulnerable memoir and an incisive investigation of art Gravitys Embrace love The Mexican Suitcase and identity Kilala Princess, Vol. 05 Abandon Me draws on childhood stories Im So Tired of Other People, Im Dating Myself! religion Applied Astrology psychology Spate of Violence mythology Keys popular culture Nosferas (Die Erben der Nacht, and the intimacies of one writer s life to reveal intellectual and emotional truths that feel startlingly universal The book covers disparate themes, but all comes back to the subject of belonging Does the dangerous thing of letting me close the book feeling like I know her That s never true, but it does signify a strength in her writing that makes you feel fully let in For fans of Maggie Nelson. I read this book with my hand clutched over my heart It is such an aching, loving piece of art It chronicles enough elements of Febos s life that it is difficult to braid all the threads into one neat summary While so much of her story is fascinatingly unique, the book felt universal, with the kind of insight that resonates bone deep Febos s writing is gorgeous I was truly blown away by the quality of the prose I wish I could read it for the first time again If you re interested in lyrica I read this book with my hand clutched over my heart It is such an aching, loving piece of art It chronicles enough elements of Febos s life that it is difficult to braid all the threads into one neat summary While so much of her story is fascinatingly unique, the book felt universal, with the kind of insight that resonates bone deep Febos s writing is gorgeous I was truly blown away by the quality of the prose I wish I could read it for the first time again If you re interested in lyrical personal essay, I would highly recommend You re not even hungry she d say You can t be But I was hungry For food, for approval, for secrets, for my legs push against the ground, for the ocean, for words For none of these things at all., but for the brief satisfaction of filling myself with them What do we all have in common when it comes to love, regardless of our sexual preferences It devours us, picks it s teeth clean with our bones It makes fools of us as we wait for returns when abandoned, a god goddess when adored, venge You re not even hungry she d say You can t be But I was hungry For food, for approval, for secrets, for my legs push against the ground, for the ocean, for words For none of these things at all., but for the brief satisfaction of filling myself with them What do we all have in common when it comes to love, regardless of our sexual preferences It devours us, picks it s teeth clean with our bones It makes fools of us as we wait for returns when abandoned, a god goddess when adored, vengeful when burned but most of all we are hungry for it, our mouths forever open forIt isn t any easier if you re gay, or young, or rich what stupid things to say Love is a wound sometimes too Melissa Febos opens her soul to the reader, purging emotions and thoughts that we can all relate to You should read it whether you are male, female, gay, straight, foreign, alien you get it Love, this greedy hungry creature, where does it rise from within us, how does our upbringing prepare or damage us for future partners.This is how one woman makes sense of her upside down heart, her compulsion to both eat and spit out love, you know that compulsion that drives us all into the arms of someone, hoping to fill, be filled and at the same time emptied out Love is insane, our childhoods are insane how the heck do we survive it all As Melissa writes about her father The Captain and her mother s seperation, his stepping away from them , it is poignant how it also her own love story in a sense We take the beginings of our own story, which starts with our parents, and build a skeleton with it, on which we add our future and what a home it is She rebels, she experiments, she stumbles and on and on she goes, as we all do.Beautiful writing dripping with raw emotion, salt in wounds words Yes, yes me too I have felt that, I have done that, it s me, it s you From the quote I shared at the start of this review you re not even hungry we are always hungry Our past is never completely behind us, every single person that we love or learn about love from we carry on our backs, we all need to be the adored and to adore Love shifts, things end, and falling in love is both an ascension to heaven and a sacrifice to some terrifying demon As Melisa Febos says Though a clumsy child, I was a scrupulous keeper of secrets And lucky for us that is true, because what are memoirs really but a divulging of secrets, be they thoughts or stories that live inside our minds Gorgeous.Publication Date February 28, 2017Bloomsbury USA via my blog I read Whip Smart and didn t finish it I appreciated so much of it but the writing didn t carry me through Or it felt redundant Or it was the wrong time for me to read it Anyway, when I found an ARC of Abandon Me I was intrigued but not keeling over with excitement I started the book that night and we were inseparable for days until literally minutes ago when I turned the last page I fucked this book UP with underlining and circling and star ing and exclamation point ing and DOUBLE and I read Whip Smart and didn t finish it I appreciated so much of it but the writing didn t carry me through Or it felt redundant Or it was the wrong time for me to read it Anyway, when I found an ARC of Abandon Me I was intrigued but not keeling over with excitement I started the book that night and we were inseparable for days until literally minutes ago when I turned the last page I fucked this book UP with underlining and circling and star ing and exclamation point ing and DOUBLE and TRIPLE and QUADRUPLE underlining and square ing whole paragraphs, accentuated with stars I read it on the train and walking up stairs and walking home from the train, having to lean the book against a lamppost to underline and exclamation point someI told my roommates about it I told my co workers about it I would have told people on the train about it but that s inappropriate The writing is vast Have you read Lidia Yuknavitch s eternally brilliant Chronology of Water It hit me like that Except Yuknavitch s story is woven beautifully but the story was not mine I found myself again and again and again in the pages of Abandon Me I offered to let my roommate read the copy but now it s so marked up I m not sure anyone else would want to I read this book until it was 2am and my eyes couldn t any do you know how long it s been since that s happened Since I thought about book wistfully when I couldn t be reading it Is anyone still reading this Probably not Probably you re all going to your locally owned small bookstore and pre ordering this book You should Especially if you self identify as a woman, you re any variation of queer, you ve ever loved a woman, you ve ever been in a co dependent and emotionally abusive relationship, you were birthed by a woman, you have a brother, you have an addiction, you live and or love New York City, you have indigenous heritage, you are not enough of something, you are too much This book makes me feel like maybe I don t ever need to find my biological dad Like becoming my worst self with my ex fiance was the best thing I could have ever done for this moment, so many hundreds of days in the future Like the man who acted like my father is the most benevolent gift this life has offered me Like I should be in New Mexico or leaned back in a tattoo parlor Like there is a way to tell our stories, that there is worth in everything we ve left behind.I can t wait for my roommate to read this book so that I can have it back and read it again Until then I m going back to Whip Smart to try it again I already miss Abandon Me.If you haven t read The Chronology of Water pick that up, too, while you re pre ordering this one Sidenote I gave it a 4 because if MF can leap from Whip Smart to Abandon Me, I cannot truly conceive of what s next but whatever it is, I want to leave space for her next genius XOO How do I know a book deserves an automatic five star rating When I have eight pages of quotes in my journal EIGHT.I could have copied this whole book down and still needed to go back and copy it all again Melissa Febos prose is FLAWLESS God It s so beautiful that I can not find a single thing to criticize.It is also DRIPPING with sex.In fact, most of the negative reviews on Goodreads say something like Why does this book have to be so sexual Um, guys, you picked a book by dominatrix did How do I know a book deserves an automatic five star rating When I have eight pages of quotes in my journal EIGHT.I could have copied this whole book down and still needed to go back and copy it all again Melissa Febos prose is FLAWLESS God It s so beautiful that I can not find a single thing to criticize.It is also DRIPPING with sex.In fact, most of the negative reviews on Goodreads say something like Why does this book have to be so sexual Um, guys, you picked a book by dominatrix did you expect something G rated This isn t so much about her time as a sex worker that s another book but about every other loaded section of her life As she puts it I am Puerto Rican, but not really Indian, but not really Gay, but not really Adopted, but not really The memoir s story follows her abusive relationship with a married woman and her constant struggle to escape it She details her addiction to self harm, then alcohol, then drugs, and then love all in an effort to gain control over her own body We get to know, some along with her, the heartbreakingly damaged people in her life.But the most important point of this book is how she teaches us of the incredible psychological trauma of the Indigenous Peoples of America At one point, she has a conversation with her agent about how no one wants to read about Native Americans, that she should write somethingakin to her dominatrix book, something about her urban and edgy So she does just that with this book writing her love story, but still managing to weave in Native American history in every stop that is made, and let us know just how that genocide and erasure has affected the people we have tried so hard to push down.Prove that agent wrong Order this book immediately, guys It s sexy, it s beautiful, it s IMPORTANT There are LGBTQIA and Native and POC people everywhere in this And you know, that agent is right about one thing we don t see too many Native American authors but that shouldn t mean a lack of wanting them published We needstories like this, and we can start with Melissa Fabos GO ORDER THIS BOOK, YA LL Just the title of Melissa Febos memoirleft me with questions I understood the subject ABANDONMENT..but Abandon Me depending on how it s said and framed can have different meanings I can t remember specifically reading a book about the affects of abandonment yet my father died when I was 4 and my mother often left me home alone at night starting at the of 5 so I was very interested in Melissa s memoir in which she include stories about her childhood As I read through the stor Just the title of Melissa Febos memoirleft me with questions I understood the subject ABANDONMENT..but Abandon Me depending on how it s said and framed can have different meanings I can t remember specifically reading a book about the affects of abandonment yet my father died when I was 4 and my mother often left me home alone at night starting at the of 5 so I was very interested in Melissa s memoir in which she include stories about her childhood As I read through the stories I noticed a pattern Melissa craved comfort The things that pained her couldn t be soothed by speaking Rage about being rejected was turned inward As abandonment progressed , it burrowed deep within where it silently was eating away at her self esteem Desires to consume grew to fill her emptiness Lust was a desire Chronic insecurity became the scourge of her human relationships Fear became a barrier at attempts to find love.And like many abandoned people Melissa defended bruises by a lover it was a feeling of being owned Melissa said As much as we like to own, we also like to be owned in love Or at least to belong to someone I am a feminist, and the desire to be possessed is one I have been reluctant to admit Melissa s writing is real raw emotional Books were of tremendous value to her growing up The Captain, who raised her, Melissa s first father left , gave her treasures rather than religion.and he gave her stories We learn quite a lot about Melissa s life everything from drugs Sex, changes in her appearance, i.e Clothes, hair color, music, her family, her brother s bipolar disorder , the secrecy and self absorption and greedy need Melissa had to protect only herselfand the addiction than ran through her family It s got to take so much courage to write a book like this because even if Melissa has achievedemotional balance and inner peace today which God Bless her I hope she has and it sounds like she has to write about old pains old memories she would have to feel them again to have manifested emotional integrity such as she did Melissa created meaning from some crazy chaotic situations Thank You Bloomsbury, NetGalley, and Melissa Febos, I dislike writing negative reviews, in particular for memoirs, because I know firsthand how much vulnerability goes into this brave, brutal genre And I appreciated Melissa Febos s vulnerability in Abandon Me, as she describes lust, love, loss, and a gamut of other emotions in a raw and honest way throughout the book Her essay Labyrinths slayed me with its intricate discussion of family, mental illness, and the importance of saving oneself.However, I did not appreciate the glorification of th I dislike writing negative reviews, in particular for memoirs, because I know firsthand how much vulnerability goes into this brave, brutal genre And I appreciated Melissa Febos s vulnerability in Abandon Me, as she describes lust, love, loss, and a gamut of other emotions in a raw and honest way throughout the book Her essay Labyrinths slayed me with its intricate discussion of family, mental illness, and the importance of saving oneself.However, I did not appreciate the glorification of the unhealthy and toxic romantic relationship in Abandon Me Though some may use words like passionate or exhilarating to describe the romance that pervades this book, I would characterize it as emotional abuse for further reading, check out this short piece by Cheryl Strayed on the same topic For the entire duration of this book, I waited for Febos to describe how she broke free from this abusive dynamic, or at least for her to indicate an awareness that this type of behavior should not be normalized However, she ends her book by writing every lover is a destroyer I had to be destroyed to become something else As someone who has experienced both unhealthy and healthy relationships, I would argue that, actually, a lot of loving relationships heal instead of destroy, and you do not have to necessarily be destroyed to find yourself.Overall, I wish I had liked this one , but the imprecise language and the lack of structure, coherency, and greater unifying message tired me out I do wish Febos the best and I hope that readers who enjoy this book take away the message they should try to prevent or seek help for theabusive behaviors present within its pages For those who want intense, intelligent, and compassionate personal essays or memoirs, I would recommend Appetites by Caroline Knapp, as well as The Empathy Exams by Leslie Jamison, just to name a couple